Body Positivity

“But I think the first real change in women’s body image came when JLo turned it butt-style. That was the first time that having a large-scale situation in the back was part of mainstream American beauty. Girls wanted butts now. Men were free to admit that they had always enjoyed them. And then, what felt like moments later, boom—Beyoncé brought the leg meat. A back porch and thick muscular legs were now widely admired. And from that day forward, women embraced their diversity and realized that all shapes and sizes are beautiful. Ah ha ha. No. I’m totally messing with you. All Beyonce and JLo have done is add to the laundry list of attributes women must have to qualify as beautiful. Now every girl is expected to have Caucasian blue eyes, full Spanish lips, a classic button nose, hairless Asian skin with a California tan, a Jamaican dance hall ass, long Swedish legs, small Japanese feet, the abs of a lesbian gym owner, the hips of a nine-year-old boy, the arms of Michelle Obama, and doll tits. The person closest to actually achieving this look is Kim Kardashian, who, as we know, was made by Russian scientists to sabotage our athletes. Everyone else is struggling.”

― Tina Fey


At what age did you start noticing your physical flaws? At what age did beauty start to mean concealing pimples, covering fats and losing weight?

Fuck what society thinks. It is hard to look like the "perfect" person okay. That's a fact we must accept and embrace. Only 10 out of 100 (obviously accurate, not) look that good. Have a mind of your own.

Don't judge others, be more understanding and loving. If we can change the way we treat others, we can change the way this world works. Slowly but surely. Love is the way to go.

I believe those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. Work on being super awesome instead of crying about not looking "perfect". Work on the things you can actually change (and that is being productive, good job).

Be kinder, help people out whenever you can, connect with nature, play a sport, sing a song, heal yourself. Be the best version of yourself and I am sure many people will love you for it. 

What's in your heart and mind determines the lifelong relationships you will build with the people around you (and not how you look like a supermodel all day every day).

Learn to accept your body and all your insecurities. Learn to love yourself first. If you don't, who will? 

Exercise to be healthy, put makeup to feel even more fabulous than you already are, dress to be yourself.

You are beautiful. Boy, girl, fat, thin, muscular, short, tall, lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, straight, disabled, flat-chested, too much boobs, caucasian, asian, chicken, cow, dog, bird. 

You are beautiful to me as long as you have a big heart, a deep mind and a great personality.



It's hard, I know. If you need a listening ear or a helping hand, foofangrong6@gmail.com.




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Zendagi Migzara

30 Lessons I've learnt from 2013:

1. Love and kindness is always the way.
2. Everything is a mind game. Change the way you think, change your life.
3. Everything still happens for a good reason, if there's no good reason for it, it wouldn't happen. Either a blessing or a lesson.
4. Accept things the way they are. Only then you can find inner peace and happiness even in the dullest moments.
5. Hold on to those who never left you. 
6. Hard times reveal true friends. 
7. Pain is real, but so is hope.
8. People judge what they don't understand.
9. If we aren’t living vulnerably, in connection with others, we aren’t really living at all.
10. Be the kind of person you want to be friends with. 
11. Let go of negative people. Surround yourself with who and what you want to be.
12. Sadness is healthy. Welcome sadness, just don’t let it consume you.
13. Some loneliness and silence is necessary and healthy. Filling every minute makes it hard to listen to our intuition, or that inner guiding voice.
14. Spend time alone, reading, writing, art, music and exercise heal you.
15. Traveling heals.
16. Nature heals.
17. Good things take time.
18. Pain and suffering are always inevitable for a larger intelligence and a deeper heart.
19. View everything from different perspectives.
20. Don't bother comparing yourself with people. Be the best version of yourself and stay true to yourself. Many people will love you for that.
21. Your mother was right about it all, and if she wasn’t, her heart was in the right place.
22. Feel free to fall, but always be prepared to catch yourself.
23. All things are difficult before they are easy.
24. Listen, love, apologise, forgive.
25. All things are delicately interconnected.
26. Whatever comes, let it come. What stays, let it stay. What goes, let it go. Let it be.
27. You will find happiness when you stop hiding.
28. Always try to be the reason someone smiles. Always help people whenever you can. Small gestures can amount to a lot.
29. Some things never change.
30. The best thing you can put on is confidence.

Some of my favourite quotes from 2013:

• “Find ecstasy within yourself. It is not out there. It is in your innermost flowering. The one you are looking for is you.” — Osho
• “My religion is simple. My religion is kindness.” — The Dalai Lama
• Some people think to be strong is to never feel pain. In reality, it’s the strongest people who feel it, understand it, and accept it.
• What this world needs is a group hug.
• "You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them." — Iyanla Vanzant  
• "Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My god, do you learn." — C.S Lewis
• “The joy is in remembering; the pain is in knowing it was yesterday.” — David Levithan, Every Day
• Sometimes, when you are not getting the love you want, giving makes you think you will.
• We assume others show love the same way we do — and if they don't, we worry it's not there.
• "What touches you is what you touch.” — Margaret Atwood
• “Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” — Theodore Roosevelt
• "Last night I dreamt, that somebody loved me. No hope no harm, just another false alarm." — The Smiths
• "This is a good sign, having a broken heart. It means we have tried for something." — Elizabeth Gilbert
• “Without the dark, we’d never see the stars.”
• “Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.”
• When someone is unlovable, that's when they need love most.

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Even when we were sad we were happy

2013 has gone and 2014 has already begun. (Seems like it's becoming a tradition to cry when the clock approaches 12mn every 31st of Decemeber)

I can feel myself growing further and further away from 2013. One part of me wants to stay. Hold on to all the memories, good and bad. Maybe even relive them.
The other part of me wants to move on. To have a new beginning. To start afresh with the lessons I've learnt.

But I obviously know which way I need to go.

Last year was a big mess but I found good in it. I've managed to find love in the worst situations and I am thankful for that.

I'm thankful for the mornings in school that I found someone to cry to, to talk to.
Afternoons of dance and filming to distract me from sadness and despair (and it made me happy actually).
Evenings with the best friend and the soul-mate at some playground, drinking from plastic cups, stargazing and soul-searching.
And the nights that turned into dawns.


Is it possible to hold on and move on at the same time though?


I can safely say that 2013 was a year of growth.
2014 shall be a year of action.

Maybe I like this roller coaster / Maybe it keeps me high